How Much is Enough?

My daughter recently turned 16. Several weeks later she completed driver’s education. After another 10 days, she felt almost ready to take her tests. As her father and I were leaving town for several weeks, she decided she had better go for it. Despite several...

A Different Standard for Mothers?

It was a rare moment. With my parents and children around the dinner table, we hit on a topic to which my mother and daughter both responded passionately. “You shouldn’t have children unless you are going to take care of them,” declared my mother. My...

Generational Generosity

Passing values and desired behaviors on to our children is at once a mystery and a very simple thing. It is mysterious, in that we can do everything in our power to mold and shape a child, only for the “result” to turn out as opposite as possible from our...

What’s in a Word?

Back when I was your age… What parent doesn’t say—or at least think—that once in a while? Back when I was a child, my parents were very strict about several things—including forbidding the use of certain words. As a child, I was not allowed to curse or to use...

The Changing Seasons of Life

They are everywhere, always with us. Anticipated or not. Welcome or not. Smooth or less so. Exciting. Challenging. Nearly always difficult. They are transitions, and they are a constant in life, particularly family life. My family and I have recently had more than our...