The Cost of Equivocation: Why We Avoid Clarity

The Cost of Equivocation: Why We Avoid Clarity

Most people aren’t born afraid of clarity. They learn it. From childhood onward, many of us are trained, explicitly or implicitly, to soften our words, protect other people’s feelings, avoid discomfort and keep the peace at all costs.  We’re told to be “nice,” to “not...
As a Chaplain, I Carry Depth Like Oxygen

As a Chaplain, I Carry Depth Like Oxygen

There’s a pattern in human nature where people die in winter. This appears because of increased darkness, the colder weather affecting our bodies, and people hanging on until they say goodbye to loved ones. If you’re in the hospital, you might have a chaplain stop by...
The Stones We Hold

The Stones We Hold

We live in a world that hands us stones every day. Not always literal rocks, but sometimes. Usually, our stones are words that cut, systems that fail, glances that slice. Every headline feels like a hammer. Every delay, a shove. Every accusation, a weight pressing on...
When You Stay Seated

When You Stay Seated

The tables are set, and you’re sitting at one. Every day, in every room, we reenact the same quiet sorting: who belongs, who doesn’t, who gets welcomed, who gets ignored. It’s not just middle school lunchrooms anymore. It’s our churches, our neighborhoods, our social...