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The Faithful Pride Initiative (FPI) has two primary purposes.

First, we aim to highlight the work of queer people of faith. We do this through collaboration, social media campaigns, speaking at events, and partnerships.

Second, we aim to create resources for their flourishing. Some of those resources speak directly to the needs of queer people of faith–like the Navigating the Holidays as a Queer Person social media video series we did in 2025.

However, we know that LGBTQ+ people are not typically the most significant barrier to their own flourishing. To that end, we also create resources that seek to improve the contexts in which LGBTQ+ people of faith exist (like the multi-media resource we’re developing to help churches better-support their queer clergy. Coming 2027).

FPI is a space led by queer people for queer people. As we share stories and resources, we hope to be a place where LGBTQ+ people can continue to learn ways to reconcile and celebrate both their queerness and their faith.

That said, allies to the LGBTQ+ community have just as much to learn from this space. Our hope is that by engaging in stories that center queer experiences, allies will gain resources that allow them to be stronger allies to the LGBTQ+ community. 

To learn more, contact us at info@goodfaithmedia.org

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FAQs

Wait, isn’t “queer” a slur? Why are you using it?

As language has evolved, newer generations of LGBTQ+ individuals have decided to reclaim the word queer for various reasons. Some folks prefer the identity queer because they enjoy the fluidity of the term. Others use queer because they don’t want to get into the “rabbit hole” of explaining their gender identity and sexual orientation, especially if their identities don’t align with more well-known binary identities. For example, if someone is a trans-masculine nonbinary individual who is also a grey ace demisexual, they might just say they’re queer to avoid needing to give a lengthy explanation to someone unfamiliar with all those terms. 

Additionally, queer is the term used in academic spaces to study LGTBQ+ experiences:  queer theory, queer theology, etc. 

That said, not everyone in the LGBTQ+ community is comfortable with the word. Many of our elders who received unspeakable hate and violence during the peak of the AIDS crisis still dislike this term and avoid using it for themselves. We honor and respect that for some people, this word will never be a safe word for them. For that reason, we won’t force anyone to use this word, but neither will we ask people to stop using it as an identity for themselves. 

Is FPI exclusively Christian?

As FPI grows, we hope to be a place for interfaith dialogue because LGBTQ+ people across all faith traditions are doing remarkable work. If you are some of those people, reach out to us! We would love to hear your story.

What is queer theology?

Queer theology typically seeks to subvert the harmful heteronormative patriarchal traditions within scripture and religion. By subverting oppressive theologies, it hopes to “queer” our understanding of how things “must” work. In order to articulate such subversions, queer theologians are not afraid to get provocative– some might even say risque. It pulls heavily from queer theory for the basis of many of its arguments. Foundational queer theologians include Marcella Althaeus-Reed and Robert E. Shore-Goss, among others.

 

The reception of queer theology among LGBTQ+ Christians is varied. We encourage folks to check it out for themselves before passing judgement. 

What’s the difference between queer theology and affirming theology?

Queer theology typically seeks to subvert the harmful heteronormative patriarchal traditions within scripture and religion. By subverting oppressive theologies, it hopes to “queer” our understanding of how things “must” work. In order to articulate such subversions, queer theologians are not afraid to get provocative– some might even say risque. It pulls heavily from queer theory for the basis of many of its arguments. Foundational queer theologians include Marcella Althaeus-Reed and Robert E. Shore-Goss, among others.

Affirming theology rejects the foundational assumptions of queer theology that religion and scripture need to be subverted. Instead, affirming theology argues that nothing is wrong with the Bible, but rather our interpretive approach to it is flawed, leading to homophobic renderings of specific passages. From that perspective, affirming theology claims that if we can fix our interpretation, “queering” the Bible isn’t necessary. This theology is supported by many churches and Christian organizations, such as The Reformation Project.

 

Coming Out Stories

Real Stories, Real Journeys

Stories have the power to connect us by building connections with one another. Coming out stories especially highlight a tender diversity in a shared experience among LGBTQ+ people.
As you explore these stories, we hope you find connection, learn from perspectives different from your own, or discover a new resource to help you in this phase of your journey.
Kali's Story
I was 25 years old. I’d only just recently embraced my sexuality and began testing the dating pool. It felt much more true to who I am as a person and I knew it deep in my bones: I’m...
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Kali Cawthon-Freels's Story
I was 25 years old. I’d only just recently embraced my sexuality and began testing the dating pool. It felt much more true to who I am as a person and I knew it deep in my bones:  I’m gay.  I was nervous about coming out to my bio family. With things like this, it was hard to predict how they’d respond. But I knew one thing:  my sister’s response would set the tone. She routinely said things like “I don’t care if people are gay; I just don’t want to see it.” She never defined what “it” was–holding hands, kissing, or just queer people existing–but the homophobia wasn’t as subtle as she thought. She also routinely ran away from conversations she felt were hard; I knew she’d do the same with this one. I crafted my plan. As a seminary graduation gift to myself, I asked my sister to join me on a trip to Texas to visit our aunt. When our plane got to a cruising altitude, I’d come out to my sister on the plane (I figured you can’t run from a conversation at 30,000 feet). Then, we’d have a whole week together where she could see that I was still me.  That’s exactly what I did. She didn’t ask many questions and we had a lovely time visiting our extended family. When we got home, she didn’t bring it up. When I started dating the woman who would become my wife, she didn’t ask any questions about her– no “how’d you meet” or “what do you like about her.” She begrudgingly participated in our wedding. She never added my wife as a friend on social media.  I went no-contact with my bio family for varying reasons in 2021. Honestly, it’s been a relief to not have to deal with the subtle homophobia of not being excited to learn about your sibling’s spouse–to not consider her part of the family.  Who have been your biggest sources of support since then? My wife and best friends have been my biggest supporters, hands down. It’s also been incredibly life-giving to be part of church communities that celebrate both me and my wife. That’s a special gift–one that should be much more common.  What’s one thing you know now that you wish you knew during that experience? I wish I had known that I didn’t have to prove my belovedness to anyone. That’s ultimately what queer people mean when they say, “I’m still me,” and that’s 100% what I meant when I said the line to my sister. My belovedness comes from being one of the many children God created. No one can take that away from me. What resources were helpful to you leading up to, during, and after that experience? Learning more about queer theology has been a soothing, healing balm. Finding faith-based spaces where I can come as I am and know I belong, places like Q Christian Fellowship and the Wild Goose Festival, has been restorative in a way I didn’t know was possible.  My therapist has often told me I like to “escape into my intellect,” so therapy treatments that encourage me to actually feel the feelings so I can process them have been more helpful than I can put into words. CBT, narrative talk therapy, and EMDR have all been incredibly helpful at different points throughout my life. If you’d like, please share the links to your social media accounts so we can tag you in relevant posts.

Kali Cawthon-Freels

Facebook:  facebook.com/kalicawthonfreels Instagram:  instagram.com/kali.cawthon_freels Substack:  kalicawthonfreels.substack.com

Kali's Story
Kali Cawthon-Freels's Story
Erin Mieskowski's Story
The coming out process is never really done for queer people existing in a heteronormative society. I was highly involved with a church community for about 3 years, then left the area and came back. By heavily involved...
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Erin Mieskowski's Story
The coming out process is never really done for queer people existing in a heteronormative society. I was highly involved with a church community for about 3 years, then left the area and came back. By heavily involved, I was in all the choirs I could possibly be in, as well as co-leading their high school Bible Study at one point.  When I came back to the area, I came back married to a transman, and we were both very open about that. At one of my first choir rehearsals back to this church, someone said something about my “wife” and I just somehow knew it was going to be a problem. The next day, I get a call from the pastor of this church about having something to say about me being married to a woman. During the call, I corrected him and let him know that my spouse is a man and transgender. The phone call ended with the pastor saying he originally called to ‘uninvite’ me from singing in ensembles (the choir was okay), but ended up letting me know that they “didn’t know what to do with me” because of how my spouse identified.  I ended up staying there for 3 more years because I needed a worship style that I could connect with. I left after finding a queer-affirming church where I was able to serve as worship leader and shape the culture for about 7 years.   Who have been your biggest sources of support since then?  The actually queer-affirming churches I've found since then have been the best. That church tried their best to have conversations around queerness and Christianity - I even spoke there a few years after I left about how to actually be supportive of queer people as a person of faith. However, my faith deepened so much when I was able to embrace my authenticity and worship God without feeling like I had to hide from God or anyone else in the room.  What’s one thing you know now that you wish you knew during that experience?   I don't have to hide any parts of myself to be good enough for God. I can't hide any parts of myself from God to begin with!   What resources were helpful to you leading up to, during, and after that experience?  There are so many resources that have come out recently that I wish were available then.  
  • My current read - Faith Deconstruction for Dummies by Mashaun D. Simon would have given me the framework to start moving into healthy Christian frameworks so much sooner  
  • A Black Theology of Liberation by James H. Cone would have helped me frame the conversation with that pastor around liberation for all people being wrapped up in ensuring liberation for ALL people  
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Erin Mieskowski's Story
Erin Mieskowski's Story
Lucas Hall's Story
When I was 12, I came out as a boy. When my mom found out I was living as James in our new neighborhood she quickly put a stop to it. I lived as gay for most of...
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Lucas Hall's Story
When I was 12, I came out as a boy. When my mom found out I was living as James in our new neighborhood she quickly put a stop to it. I lived as gay for most of my teenage years, and I lived the next 15 years confused and suppressing my gender identity. At 19, I married a man and we entered into the ministry – because I was told I could not be gay, or I would disappoint God, lose my ministry, and go to hell. After 4 years of marriage, we divorced and I came back out as gay. I was angry at God for failing me and turned my back on him for the first time in my life – and this was very painful. I loved God, but I could not deny who I was any longer. A year later, I felt God calling me to come speak to him, and I did. I heard him tell me in my soul that I needed to accept myself. After this, I wept and realized if God is telling me to accept myself, then he must accept me. I spent the next 4 years merging my faith and sexual orientation, then living as a gay female. At 27 years old I hit a rock bottom moment and attempted to end my life. The doctors told my mom that if I survived, I would most likely be brain dead. I did survive, with no obvious lasting effects. I had told God during that attempt he either needed to fix me, or I was done living. Months went by with no answers and I became increasingly discouraged. I had tried everything to find my answer to no avail. On top of this, my father attacked me the one night I stayed at his house after leaving home, and almost choked me to death. I barley got out of that situation alive, and when I did, I was lower than dirt. I could not find the strength to keep living. I wrote a suicide note and planned to run my car into a tree at 120 mph later that day. That morning I had a doctor appointment at the LGBTQ clinic and the guy who checked me in was trans. I felt the need to speak with him, so he agreed to meet up with me that weekend. He told me his story about being transgender and it’s like every light came on in the room for me – I finally had language, I was transgender! That next week after seeking God and feeling affirmed as Lucas, I came out. My mom stayed and did not fight me this time, but the rest of my family had a hard time adjusting. I have lost the majority of my family, but I have gained many chosen family members. I was able to get off all medication that I was placed on as a child to control my behavior and depression, because the HRT and being able to live as Lucas was what I needed to be stable and happy with myself. I have continued the healing journey, and been able to face my trauma in new ways since transitioning, allowing for further healing and growth. It’s been a hard road at times, but I know I would not be alive right now had I not started my transition when I did at 27. I am 39 now, and the happiest, most confident and stable I have ever been. The fruit speaks.   Who have been your biggest sources of support since then?  My biggest supporters have been my mom, my aunt Suzie and uncle Stan, my pastor Bonnie Lebak, my mentor Kevin Jennings, my best friends: Asher W., Lisa & Troy M., Eve H., Eve. G, Kris J., Amy & Mike M., Gina B. Jennifer K., Heather M., Morgan D., AJ J., Berty QW., Jonathan L., Jay W., Mark W., Ann B., Kelly M., LC W., Christina T., Aech A., Eli V., Shauna HM., Linda F., the team at the Reformation Project (Matthew, Katherine, Melissa) and Center Peace (Sally, Karen, Christopher), and so many other LGBTQ+ folks and allies I have met along the way.   What’s one thing you know now that you wish you knew during that experience?   I wish I knew growing up that it was ok to be queer. So many years were spent fighting myself, and for no reason. I wish I had access to transgender information and resources so that I could have transitioned younger. But I am thankful for my journey, as it has shaped me into who I am and equipped me to help others in meaningful and skillful ways.   What resources were helpful to you leading up to, during, and after that experience?  Trauma-informed, LGBTQ+ competent therapy. Being involved in affirming churches. The Reformation Project. Center Peace. Other resources on being queer and Christian. The person that told me about his transition that allowed me to have language for it finally.  Facebook Instagram  
Lucas Hall's Story
Lucas Hall's Story
Lucas Wilson's Story
When I was twenty-five, I came out to my mom over the phone. I was sitting in my shotgun apartment in Nashville as I called my mom who had just moved from my hometown —Toronto—to a smalltown in rural...
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Lucas Wilson's Story
When I was twenty-five, I came out to my mom over the phone. I was sitting in my shotgun apartment in Nashville as I called my mom who had just moved from my hometown—Toronto—to a smalltown in rural Ontario. I knew I needed to tell her I was gay before she came down for a visit later that year. This was because my apartment only had one bed, and at the time, I was living with a “roommate.” She may have been naïve to the fact I was gay, something almost everyone else already seemed to know, but she would have quickly figured out my relationship once she stepped foot inside my home.  Once I told her my “roommate” was more than just a roommate, she began to sob. She started to ask me, over and over, “Why, Lucas? Why?” Her tears quickly turned to anger as she hung up the phone and began sending me a steady stream of text messages.  Disgusting! I wish I never gave birth to you! You’re a mistake! You’re Sodum and Gamorrah! (her spelling clearly needed some work).  For a few weeks, I texted her back and forth, which accomplished very little, as she was still thoroughly angry. She then started leaving me voicemails with explicit descriptions of what she imagined to be my sex life, which was disturbing, to say the least. These voicemails, like her texts, persisted for weeks. I didn’t want to escalate the situation, so I tried my best to respond with grace (more than I could ever muster today).  However, at a certain point, I realized I had unconsciously been trying to convince her I was still loveable. This was precisely when I cut her off. In that moment, I decided that I would never try to convince anyone to love me. If someone were to love me, phenomenal; if they didn’t, then it was and is never my responsibility to persuade them. Once a people pleaser who sought the approval of others, I refused in that moment to be or do so any longer. Shortly thereafter, I came out on Facebook—which, at the time, was the most official way for one to announce anything. In response to my announcement, a number of folks unfollowed or blocked me, which was only to be expected in light of the fact that I had come from a conservative evangelical background. However, and much more importantly, I received an outpouring of love and acceptance from countless family and friends. These were some of the folks who acted more like a mother than my own mom. These were some of the people who showed me what a chosen family is. These are the people for whom I am, to this day, beyond grateful.   Who have been your biggest sources of support since then? Along with all my queer friends—of which there are many!—the biggest sources of support were my siblings and my best friend, Monika. I had told my sister and one of my brothers that I was gay a few months before I came out to my mom. Both of them supported me 100%. Then, after I came out to my mom, she chose to out me to my two other brothers, thinking that they would side with her. However, to her surprise, they both stood by my side and, in truth, scolded her for how she responded. All my siblings have been just phenomenal. My best friend, Monika, has also been such a source of love, always having my back and always opening her arms (and her kitchen) when need be. I am sincerely so thankful for our friendship; I am one lucky guy.   What’s one thing you know now that you wish you knew during that experience? Having a conversation about being queer—a conversation that is had in good faith—is very different than having to justify your queerness. You never need to convince anyone to love you, even your parent. If they don’t accept you for who you are, you don’t owe them your ear to hear their hate, nor do you owe them a justification for who you are. If they refuse to accept you, that is on them, not you. If they need time and space to process the news that you are queer, they can and should take that time and space. But throughout that process, you don’t have to sit idly and be their punching bag, nor do you have to convince them to love you. The right people will be there to love you, and those are the people you want to keep close. What resources were helpful to you leading up to, during, and after that experience? Along with my family and friends, writing has been an incredibly helpful resource to help me process years of homophobia, not to mention what it means to be queer. Writing has enabled me to externalize a lot of the internal(ized) chaos that has accumulated over the years and has allowed me to find a way to come to terms with it. In fact, finding terms—or language—to name who I am and what I’ve been through has been wildly liberating. Writing has thus allowed me to articulate myself in ways I never thought possible when I was a young, queer teenager who was unsure of himself and his sexuality. Writing has allowed me to find my voice. Instagram: @lukeslamdunkwilson Threads: @lukeslamdunkwilson TikTok: @lukeslamdunkwilson Bluesky: @lukeslamdunkwilson.bsky.social LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucas-wilson-2a0753b1/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/luke.wilson.96 
Lucas Wilson's Story
Lucas Wilson's Story

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Pride 365

“Pride 365″ is the podcast from Free Moms Hugs, which empowers the world to celebrate the LGBTQIA+ community through visibility, education, and conversation.

Voice of the Turtle

In “Voice of the Turtle,” we’re going to dig into the past while we face the present.  

FPI & Partner Collaborative Resources

Converse: A Faith Based Conversation about Trans Athletes in Sports

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Free Mom Hugs

Q Christian Fellowship