
Malcolm X’s Autobiography was the first book that scared me. Here I was, in the transition from adolescence to young adulthood, secretly abandoning my pietist-revivalist rearing in favor of the more verdant fields of liberalism, which helped for a time. Then came this guy, whom I was now ready to befriend, sharply critical of liberal integrationists.
It turns out he was right, and unnervingly prescient. He was not exactly predicting the cases of Rodney King, Trayvon Martin, Michael Brown, and Freddie Gray. But no doubt he knew that “civil rights” could be doled out in limited doses without changing the underlying patterns of structural disparity.
The Black Lives Matter movement made important inroads. But then the backlash against “diversity, equity, inclusion” policies cratered that advance. Similarly, the whitelash against Obama’s election paved the way for Trumpism. Something deeper is at work sustaining these patterns of discrimination, something more than simple bigotry or prejudice.
However sincere the righteous intent, integration has mostly been a one-way street. Despite curtailed bounds, the African American community had, before the advent of the “War on Poverty” and urban renewal initiatives, vibrant commercial districts, schools, neighborhoods, and other cultural institutions. While the grip on access to bus seats, lunch counters, drinking fountains, and even voter registration rights was loosening, the noose of widespread economic disparity was tightening.
The accumulated racial trauma reminds me of that tragic conclusion of Msimangu, in Alan Paton’s memorable novel, Cry, the Beloved Country, where he says, “I have one great fear in my heart, that one day when they [white South Africans] are turned to loving, they will find we [Blacks] are turned to hating.”
So, what are we to do? How are we to live? What are the new habits that need to be formed?
Seven recommended habits for white folk like me to breach the wall of racism
The first is to get over the assumption that we can do one big march, back one ambitious legislative agenda, read all the right books, and be done with it.
The second habit is to admit that we are “trapped in a history” we do not understand, as James Baldwin wrote to his nephew; that it has to do with our nation’s mythology of manifest destiny and its warped ideology of “freedom,” both domestically and internationally; and that we must bare our faces to the blistered history that mythology has left in its wake.
It’s not a pretty sight: The truth will indeed set you free, but first it will make you miserable.
Third, understanding this venal history will require a look at our awash-in-cash, pay-to-play political process; our imperial military policies, our cannibalizing form of capitalism, a judicial system transforming corporations into persons, and a church for which “freedom” means “don’t expect commitment.”
The fourth habit is to get over the need for personal purity, admitting that we are all enmeshed in structurally tangled relations—racial, economic, national, gender, sexual orientation, relative dis/ability, etc.—that will not dissolve with well-meaning, even heroic personal effort. (We have trouble even naming them all.)
The fifth habit, for those in positions of relative power—and it’s a complex equation; all of us are haves and have-nots in relative degrees in various contexts—is to acknowledge that the journey to justice, and its promise of genuine peace mediated by the agency of mercy, will come at a cost. We must cultivate a beatific vision powerful enough to sustain us against the fear-mongering threats that the choice of right-relatedness will entail.
Sixth, we must devote ourselves to initiating and sustaining partnerships, starting close at hand and extending to far away, with those whose destiny is un-manifest, consciously taking incremental steps toward margins of every sort. And you can’t do them all—get over it! This means not only personal partnerships but community partnerships.
Theologian Kelly S. Johnson, in The Fear of Beggars: Stewardship and Poverty in Christian Ethics, unveils a universe of meaning in one single sentence: “The opposite of poverty is not plenty, but friendship.” When folk living with bounty and privilege set out to build solidarity with those who live amid scarcity, it is so, so, so easy to develop a skewed donor-recipient dynamic. Patronage and philanthropy are typically only kinder, gentler forms of appeasement and control of those of meager means.
In every instance when justice is established, wealth will most definitely flow from the affluent to the impoverished. But the relief provided is reparation, a return of what has been stolen, rather than benevolence. The logic of manna is the goal, as characterized by the Israelites’ harvesting instructions during their sojourn in the wilderness: Larger families gathered more, smaller families gathered less, but none had surplus—or, if so, it quickly spoiled—and none were lacking (Exodus 16).
And finally: While the promised Commonweal of God will profoundly rearrange every provision of privilege, our walk to freedom will recognize that colonized neighborhoods and nations are generated by an underlying colonizing of the mind, of the heart, of the will. Thus, we must be invested in communities whose labor includes the decolonization of the mind, the disarming of the heart, and the re-abling of the will.
And Jesus disclosed: “I do not call you servants any longer . . . but I call you friends” (John 15:15). This sort of befriending is both manifesto and mandate, a penetration of reality accompanied by the wherewithal to reshape it, a knowing of the truth divulged only in its doing.

